As people will tell you, month 4 is normally a pleasure and I would agree with that. It was mid January and the weather was not that bad, work was still relatively calm and we were planning a trip to Florida to see your Grandmother. The best part was I had SO much energy, especially in the morning. We went to the gym often and we even took Phil out a few times, even though he hates the cold as much as I do. Napping became less important and eating become more important. It was a pretty uneventful month. We went to Florida, it was a fantastic little getaway. The weather was beautiful, we swam, we sunbathed and we read a few books. It was just what the Dr ordered. We also go to see you, according to your dad you waved at him, “Nice to meet me!” was what he told everyone. We didn’t know if you were a boy or a girl, we didn’t care. You were healthy and growing like a weed. The Dr told us we really didn’t have to worry anymore, everything was going to be fine. Deep down inside, I was still terrified but I started to believe that this was possible. I even started to look at babies clothes and things online, we started to tell people who were not our immediate friends and family, the news that we were having a baby became something we shared. Your dad, could not help himself, we wanted to scream it from the mountain tops. He told all the regulars at the restaurant, he was so happy. He wanted to show your picture to everyone too but I managed to convince him that he didn’t need to show my insides to everyone!!
Towards the end of Month 4, your dad sent me an email, it is one that I will keep forever. In it, he detailed his plan to quit smoking. You see, your dad was a smoker for most of his life, since he was way to young and he smoked a lot. When we first met, he told me that he loved cigarettes and I believed him. I nagged him every once in a while about smoking and quitting but my nagging wasn’t going to be what got him to quit. That was something he was going to have to decide to do on his own and one day, I knew he would. It just needed to be on his own terms. You will learn as you get older, you pick your battles. Anyway, on February 8th, he detailed to me, his plan to quit smoking.
There were 4 reasons, the first two are listed below in your dad’s words:
“There are many reasons I am doing this.
#1 – Our baby. I don’t want baby bean to be raised in a smoking household, or to ever start smoking. Not even casually.